The Hypocrisy of Expectations

I made an interesting observation recently.  It has been in the news lately that several musicians have had to cancel or reschedule concert dates due to different issues, and this has been upsetting to their fans.  My sister was telling me that she had seen on social media that some people are becoming irrationally angry and belligerent about having a concert date get rescheduled – often due to circumstances that could not have been prevented.

I totally get people being frustrated that their plans have been altered.  Tickets are often not cheap, and people make arrangements to travel, etc.  It is annoying to have plans changed, and honestly, while I feel that raging about that in social media comment threads is sort of silly, I understand the frustration.

However, these same people – otherwise known as the general public – are the exact same people that suddenly do not understand why other people have expectations of them.  They have this huge expectation of these musicians to be on time, be on point, and to be entertaining.  And yet, when you encounter them in the workplace they can be just as unreasonable when someone has expectations about their performance or attendance at work!

I have seen employees be addressed for something as non-subjective as their attendance and they get defensive.  The policy states that you are AIS (ass in seat) and ready to work at the start of your shift.  Some employees balk and say that these expectations are rigid and not important to the department or organization.  I disagree.  If your regular and punctual attendance is not required for operation of this department, then I am not entirely sure why you are required at all. 

I try to find it amusing so that I don’t get frustrated, but it is a strange sort of hypocrisy that we can have such high and demanding expectations of others, but when it comes to something that is truly important we can make an excuse about it.  If we are going to expect others to be tolerant and forgiving of our own deficiencies, perhaps we should offer that courtesy in return.

On a side note, I find a lack of punctuality and attendance to be very disrespectful – both at work and in my personal life.  As a friend of mine recently said, it implies that your time is the only thing that is important to you and it is just simply rude!  If you take a job and a paycheck in exchange for the agreement to show up at work and be on time, you should do it.  Not just because your own integrity should matter to you, but it shows respect to our coworkers.

I live 20 miles away from my place of employment and I don’t even have my own vehicle, and yet in my 8 years here, I have been late maybe 5 times (all due to inclement weather) and I have been unexpectedly absent less than that.  I have trouble accepting excuses from others, especially when they are so unsympathetic to other people – especially with recreational things like concerts!


  1. Very well put!! Love this post!

  2. That friend of yours who said that sounds like an awfully smart person! :-) Between the two of you, you'd never make anyone wait!


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