Overcoming Disappointment

I was recently faced with a couple disappointments and rejections.  In the face of something I wanted very much, I was told no (twice!).  And yet in the same moment, I also felt incredibly encouraged!

Sometimes, we take a step forward only to have to step back because it’s not our time.  I believe that is when we grow.  In one case, it was a career move I had hoped to make and was given tremendously positive feedback, but it was not my time.  In the other, a side gig freelance job that I was pursuing hit a dead end - again, not my time.  Yet, this is my time to exercise my best character, my patience, and my perseverance. 

I have found in my life that in times of disappointment I uncover these little morsels of hope, in myself, in my family, and in my friends.  Rather than feeling knocked down, I feel motivated and inspired, ready to carry on and wait for my right moment.  Rather than feeling rejected, I feel like there is a purpose for me yet, and that my patience will absolutely pay off in the end.

I am a cheerful person by nature, and at times, I think people suppose it is because I tend to get the things that I want.  I think they do not understand that true joy comes from within and is not dictated by personal circumstances.  From discovering my infertility to struggling to find my niche in the world, I have had to overcome adversity as well.  I do not always succeed, I do not always win.  But I do not let these little setbacks take me off course.

Life is a grand and wide open vista, and a bump in the path shouldn’t set us off course, but rather teach us to regulate ourselves, master our emotions, and learn how to be steady in disruptive circumstances. 

I am who I am because of the times that I have struggled, failed and had to start over.  I am stronger, more patient and more hopeful because of it, and today I feel that hope very keenly.  Overcoming disappointment will only lead me to an even better place, to be ready when my time does come.

In the meantime, I am so grateful for the chances I have been given, for the people I have met and connected with, for the experience to try.  So many people get stuck at being scared to try.  I am happy to say that I am not scared to try, and I am not scared to fail.  I am happy to experience all of the fullness of life and let those circumstances develop me into an even stronger, more reliable, more hopeful person down the road.

My sisters reminded me of the possibly apocryphal story of Charlie Chaplin failing a "Charlie Chaplin look-alike contest."  And the time Dolly Parton came in second in a Dolly Parton lookalike contest - apparently to a man who came in first!  So, the moral of the story is, we laugh, we learn and we move on; life is too short to do otherwise!


  1. “You miss one hundred percent of the shots you don't take.” ~ Wayne Gretzky


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