Being Told No

Sometimes being told “no” is all it takes to set me on a course determined toward success.  I am a fairly cheerful and compliant person, but being told I can’t do something is all it takes to drive me to do it.

I am in agreement with the quote, “When someone tells me “no,” it doesn’t mean I can’t do it do it, it simply means I can’t do it with them.”

I’ve written it before, but my parents always told me I could be whatever I wanted to be, and that made me a bit of a dreamer.  I had dreams of moving away, writing, getting educated, marrying a southern gentleman, and many other things, and many of them I have achieved in some way or another!  I have many others that I am nowhere near yet but I keep dreaming. 

The problem for dreamers is that there are plenty of other people who want to give you a dose of reality.  And I have only one word for those people when they try to shoot down my dreams: rude!  Whether I am foolish or not, I am not sure why anyone feels the need to ruin the pleasure that dreaming gives me!

Growing up, my mom had this old pajama top that said, “if you dream, dream BIG!”  I remember being a little kid and wondering why anyone would even say that, because why on earth would anyone dream small?

So, I told the kids at school that I wanted to be a writer.  And then, when I got older, I told the kids that I wanted to move far away and enjoy the freedom and spirit of America!  And very few people believed in me, and honestly, I feel sad for them.  Maybe they didn’t have dreams.

I remember about 10 years ago, someone told me they didn’t think I could “cut it” in the business world or in getting my business degree.  Well, that was pretty much all it took for me to prove them wrong.  I am five classes away from a Master’s in Management, and while I can say I have yet to stumble into the right niche that I feel truly passionate about, I am good at what I do.

The dreams weren’t the problem.  The people were.  And sometimes you need to ditch the negative people so you can get the wind back in your sails.  It wasn’t that I couldn’t do all of those things, or that I can’t do the things I want to do in the future – I just can’t do it with them.  


  1. We've had a lot of talks about the difference in how you were raised to have big dreams vs how I was thing I realized as I got older was that certain people in my life tried to squash my dream of being a writer because they'd had the exact same dream and never made it come true and somehow my trying to achieve it (especially after I DID achieve it) was something they twisted around as some sort of a negative reflection on them that they DIDN'T. I think jealousy and fear play a BIG part in why some people shoot down the dreams of others, but then there are people like you who dream big themselves and therefore encourage those around them to also dream big!


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