Post-Sherry Euphoria

In a hilarious episode of Frasier, Martin and his long-time girlfriend Sherry have called it quits over a dispute.  Niles and Frasier, who both despised Sherry for her loud personality and low-brow humor, are delighted that she is finally out of their lives.  However, a more perceptive Daphne recognizes that Martin's cheerful indifference to losing Sherry is a cover for his sadness.  Frasier is trying to convince Daphne that his father is handling it perfectly fine, but then Martin interrupts the scene acting unusually bizarre.  Daphne looks sarcastically at Frasier and says, "What's your diagnosis now?"  And Frasier responds, "It's a clear cut case of post-Sherry euphoria!"

This phrase has now become a staple between my sisters and I.  My one sister, recently reflecting on a trial she had gone through and is now free of, recently said, "I am still experiencing a case of post-Sherry euphoria!"

There is nothing quite like the relief and pleasure of overcoming or getting away from circumstances that weigh on you.  Sometimes you don't even realize fully how difficult a situation is until you come out the other side of it.

I think about my mom when she was younger than I am now.  She was pregnant with her third child, and my dad had a stroke.  For a year, it was a struggle to get him well enough to work again.  In the meantime, my mom worked more than one job, and no doubt lived under a tremendous burden of stress.  I imagine when this burden was lifted that she only then truly realized how stressed she had truly been.

To a much lesser extent, I have seen this in my own life.  In my early days in America, I worked seven days a week, as many hours a day as I could, cleaning houses, nannying kids, taking care of old people, house sitting, walking dogs, and whatever other jobs I could find, in order to pay for tuition and eventually my wedding.  On top of this, I had school and what little time I could carve out for a personal life.  However, going through that time period and coming out the other side made me realize how much I can take.  It also gave me that same sense of euphoria. 

I wrote about this in my most recent book of poetry.  It's called "The Bright Side" and it talks about how without the challenges and trials and low points in life, we would not have those higher moments, those brighter days.  That it is in the things that go wrong that we discover miracles.  And it is in the times that test our patients and try our nerves and cause us to carry a burden that, when it passes, we experience the euphoria - the sense of satisfaction or relief that comes when a trial is over.