If You Want it Bad Enough

I read something on social media the other day of an inspirational speaker saying, "you can do it, or not. It's up to you."

It sounds flippant, or possibly even rude. But it is far from either of those. Reading those words struck me as extremely empowering.

He was offering suggestions to someone for hitting their goals. Practical tips. But in the end, it's not up to himself or anyone else...it's up to each of us as individuals. Scary. Exciting. Empowering.

I thought back to a recent post I made about how my spiritual gift is to encourage others. How when I get involved in helping someone achieve their goals it becomes so deeply important to me that it hurts me when they don't have the same level of passion to achieve them that I seem to feel on their behalf. But it is true, I can want it so bad for someone, but I can't do it for them.

I thought back to both of my degrees. What now seems like a distant memory to me, I was in school from 2012 all the way through 2018 with only short breaks throughout. People who say, "oh wow, you're so lucky you have a master's degree" totally misunderstand the pain in the ass of being a working adult trying to go to school for the better part of seven years. Sunday mornings for me used to be waking up early and sitting for hours in front of my computer getting my assignments done. Doesn't seem lucky to me!

There were times when it was hard. Times I even had to seek help from tutors or instructors because I hit a roadblock. There were sacrifices that I had to make with my time. There was the seemingly endless stretch ahead of me where I felt like, "I will grow old and die trying to finish these degrees!"

But I wanted it bad enough. I wanted it more, apparently, than I wanted to have Sundays free to do whatever I wanted. I wanted it more than the time and energy I had to sacrifice to get through 120 endless credits. I wanted it bad enough to deal with the frustrations when I didn't know what to do.

I had people encouraging me. I had leaders and professors giving advice and pushing me on. But at the end of the day...I could put in the work, or not. It was up to me.

And so it has been for everything I've achieved, and anything worthwhile anyone achieves. And if you're not willing to put in the work to get it, then you simply do not want it bad enough.